jeg elsker dig

i got another tattoo today. i have been thinking about it for a while, but it took this long to get around to getting it done for a couple of reasons. first, coz it just diid. and also because daniel and i had a bit of a difference of opinion as to my punctuation ;P he was, of course, wrong. i also wanted him to like the font i chose for the text and all of the previous ones i’d shown him didn’t tickle his fancy much.

he doesn’t like intentional ignorance of conventions such as capital letters. in certain situations, i do, and actually think it looks nicer with all lowercase. he claimed that since my intended tattoo was a ‘sentence’, it should have a capital letter. i countered this by saying that it wasn’t a sentence as such, more a floating fragment that was not part of any formal block of prose and therefore not subject to the standard rules. i think he still believes that he is right, but once i found a font that he didn’t mind, he was willing to overlook my flagrant disregard of proper punctuation. (i don’t have a full stop, either!)

this tattoo is, in a way, a lot more personal to me than the first. the first one is basically just a celtic type design that i really liked. and there is a meaning to it but the meaning that i see in it is not necessarily what the design traditionally represents and not necessarily what the person who published the tattoo flash intended it to mean either. i see it as representing the cycle of existence, the interconnectedness of everything and everyone. i saw a quote once but i can’t seem to find out where it originated, it simply said everything is connected to everything else.

jeg elsker dig
jeg elsker dig

jeg elsker dig is danish. there are lots of pages on the internet listing how to say it in lots and lots of languages: je t’aime, ti amo, ich liebe dich, ik hou van jou… i love you. obviously my choice is primarily because daniel is danish, but that is not all there is to it. i very much wanted something that represented him and our children but i am not into name tattoos. some people get birthdates, or co-ordinates, but to do that for each of them would start to get bigger than i wanted. i had already decided that so i was balanced, this one should be on the inside of my right ankle, since the first one is on the inside of the left wrist.

so in trying to figure out what to do, i came back to why i wanted to have something representing them on my body. (something other than the stretch marks, anyway :P) because i love them and they are what is most important in my life. and what simpler way to represent that than simply saying ‘i love you’? but it still wasn’t quite right, because anyone can say that and read it and it is meant to be something specific to those people, and that’s how i came upon having it done in danish. also i want it to be a little bit mysterious and magical.. and there are not a lot of people around here who can read danish.

being danish is part of daniel. not only was he born there but he comes from a culture with a long and rich history that has influenced many aspects of our modern world. despite their generally inaccurate and highly cliched reputation, viking explorers went further than anyone else in the same era and that is to be admired. my children are a part of that heritage, having inherited it from daniel. i may share the same name but it is not part of my blood in the same way that it is part of theirs.. but now it is, in a little way, a part of my body.

it sort of relates back to the way i see my first tattoo. not only do i love daniel, stephanie, abigail and kristian but i love all that came before them and all that will follow after them, because it is all part of .. everything, just as i am. i like that it is both a simple statement about my favourite people and a more profound statement about how i see us all as being part of something bigger.

jeg elsker dig

save the internet

Jade and Daniel (by wiccked)

This is me. And my husband.

Without the internet being what it is, a world to explore within the wider physical world.. we might not have found each other.

P1100274 (by scherre)

These are my children.

As their parent it is my responsibility to make sure that they are safe – whether they are in my home, whether we are at a park, whether they are in my car, or whether they are using the internet. Just as it is my responsibility to decide what kind of television programs are suitable for their ages and maturity levels, it’s my responsibility to do that for what they are viewing online.

Further than being a responsibility, though, is that it is my right. I know my children best and I know what they should or shouldn’t be exposed to. I don’t need the government doing that for me. I don’t need them deciding what I should be allowed to view, either. I’m a grown adult. I should be able to read or learn about whatever I want. Reading about things, viewing information about stuff online.. that is far removed from actually using any of this supposedly dangerous or offensive information and content.

And once you start censoring things, you have the continued problem of deciding what the standards are for that censorship. Who decides what is offensive? Who decides what is dangerous? Who decides what the general population is too stupid or too reckless to learn about?

The greatest thing about the internet is the venue and medium that it gives us to share our ideas, our thoughts, our art, our lives.. ourselves. Limiting people’s ability to do that is a terrible idea and should not be allowed to happen.

save the internet